Bismillahir rahmanir raheeem
الحمد لله والصلاة والسلام على رسول الله وعلى آله وصحبه أجمعين
All praises and adorations are due to Almighty Allah, and may His peace and blessing be upon His Noble Prophet Muhammad (sallallaahu alay’i wasallam), his household, his companions, and those who followed them upon Goodness till the day of accountability.
What does Islam say about Friendship?
EVERYONE NEEDS THEM, BUT NOT EVERYONE HAS THEM.
A friend should be more than just a person who you can hang out with at any time – they should be a confidante and someone who can always give you the right advice, someone that calls your attention when you are falling away from the Deen, someone that motivates you to do things that pleases Allah, someone that is willing to see you together in Jannah and so much more.
The person most noble in character and dealings with fellow humans gave us a very clear message and advice in regard to friendship. We should choose the friend that is satisfied with our Deen and avoid the friend that is displeased with it. Whoever we see and are pleased with his Deen, we should befriend him and whoever we are displeased with his Deen and his manners, we ought to avoid him.
There is no good in the companion who does not wish for us (from good) what he wishes for himself. There is also no good in the companion who wishes for us what he wishes for himself if what he likes for his own soul is leading him towards destruction and Hellfire.
Here are some Hadiths about friendship that you may not have heard:
“Keep the company of a believer only and let your food be eaten only by the righteous.” (Tirmidhi)
“A man follows the religion of his religion; so each one should consider whom he makes his friend” (Abu Dawud)
“If you wish to mention the faults of your friend, mention your own faults first.” (Bukhari)
REMINDERS FOR TAKING THE KUFAR AS FRIENDS
Allaah says in the Qur’an “You will not find any people who believe in Allaah and the Last Day, making friendship with those who oppose Allaah and His Messenger” [al-Mujaadilah 58:22]
He also says: O you who believe! Take not the Jews and the Christians as awliya (friends, protectors, helpers, etc.), they are but awliya to one another [al-Maaidah 5:51].
If we are truly concerned about our fate, we must come to this realization: those who take us away from remembering Allah, from obeying Him and His Prophet (saws), those who fail to remind us of our daily prayers, and those who do not give us sincere advice in regard to our Deen; such are really our foes and not our friends. On the other side, “a believer is the mirror of his brother”, and if he sees any faults in the other believer, he draws his attention to it, helps him to give it up, and helps him wipe away any evil that he may have.
May Allah Subhanahu wa ta’alaa grant us good companionship that would benefit us in this world and the hereafter…Aameeen.
وصل اللهم وسلم على نبيه محمد وعلى آله وصحبه أجمعين
سبحانك اللهم وبحمدك، أشهد أن لا اله إلا أنت، أستغفرك وأتوب إليك